My Night Out With Friends

So last night I went out to dinner with two amazing couples.  Surprisingly it’s like the 3rd or 4th weekend in a row that I was actually able to go out to dinner so it felt good getting out of the house because I go months and months at a time without actually going out places because I’m in too much pain most of the time, so dinner was fun.  We chatted and got to know people.

The restaurant that we went to was a restaurant in Richardson, Texas called Sababas.  The food was really good.  The service, not so much.  The worst part about it was that handicap parking wasn’t visible to me.  I didn’t see any handicap ramps or anything like that visible.  When I went inside, I asked the young lady about handicap accessibility and she kind of looked at me and turned her head to the side and said, “oh no I’m sorry we don’t have any ramps or anything like that”.  I looked at her then turned my head to the side and she said, “wait, on the other side there’s additional parking in the back, and I think that there’s handicap parking back there, and I think there might be a ramp that you can walk on the other side of the building.

I’m pretty sure I won’t be going back to that restaurant.  Good food or not, it’s just it’s not worth it to me.  By the end of the night, after we all kind of stood around and chatted and said our goodbyes, my body got extremely stiff.  This is the part that I hate.  Not only did they not have handicap ramps for handicapped parking at this restaurant, which caused me to have to step off of a huge step, but my wife wasn’t able to help me down by herself.  I had to have one of our gentlemen friends help me off the step.

I still have my doubts and humiliation not being able to help myself with my wife, but it’s hard when you have to have one of your friends help you maneuver and get down off of curbs, and help you into a car; because your legs don’t work and everything just starts to hurt, and you can’t do anything about it.  I’m so blessed to have the friends like Amin and Uma, they are wonderful people and they do so much for us.

Michelle and I don’t have a lot of friends because there are a lot of people who, just for lack of a better term, just aren’t great people.  These people, you can talk to and have fun with.  They are compassionate and understanding.  They have, from the very beginning, gone out of their way to make my life better, and I thank them for that.

I’m so glad that these people are in our lives, but enough with the mushy, back to it just being so difficult to be in pain.  I want to be young and carefree and stand and talk and chat and do things.  Unfortunately, most of the time that we were standing outside the restaurant talking, I’m leaning against Michelle; trying to get my body to work.  Once I got home, my body was so stiff, and it hurts so bad that I couldn’t even lift my foot over a very small threshold in our garage.  I had to literally wrap my arms around Michelle’s neck, so that she could hold me steady while I lift at my legs over the threshold.

This is horrible. There needs to be a cure for this.  Rheumatoid arthritis needs to go away, but that’s enough of my rant.  I really just wanted to post about my experience out with friends.   All in all, I’m really glad I went out.  I really did have a good time it’s always nice to be able to be out in a social setting, have dinner, and enjoy friends.  So we will talk soon.  Love you all so much.

Here is what my wife Michelle had to say about all this.

I think it’s important for everyone to get out and enjoy life; especially when battling a condition like RA.  It’s easy to stay home and let life pass you by when battling a disease like RA.  As Tamikka’s wife, I try to encourage her to get out, especially when I see her slipping back into a mode of not wanting to go out at all.  We’ve been going out more than normal lately and I’ve noticed a positive change in her mood; after our outings.  Whether we are going to a concert or hanging out with our friends, she comes home feeling better about life and that makes me very happy.  I realize it may not always be possible when pain is heightened, but when it’s tolerable, get out and do something fun every chance you get.

Tamikka & Michelle

Tamikka Brown-Green is an RA survivor, and her wife Michelle is one of her biggest supporters. As co-founders, they are on a mission to discover and share survival tactics for living and enjoying life with Rheumatoid Arthritis.

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